PREPARE: Preparing for your Successful Marriage
You will find thought-provoking materials to help you gain greater clarity about what you want from life and from marriage, from choosing your priorities in a mate, to dealing with emotional baggage, to addressing sensitive issues like physical or mental illness.
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
You are only looking for the one person – just one! – and you cannot find someone with all the qualities you are hoping for. Perhaps you find most of the features, but never all of them.
What it means to be married – basics.
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to marriage, and marriage can’t be done just any other way. It needs to be done right. There are some fundamental principles that are at the heart of what it means to be married. Here are some of the most important ideas for you to consider as you contemplate your future.
What is “attachment” and why is this so important for romantic relationships?
“Attachment” is a fascinating and complex matter, and the consequences are enormous for people’s experience of entering into a relationship and how their fair once married. In fact, the issue of attachment may be the single most central and important factor in the quality and success of people’s relationships.
What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion
Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
The question of whether to consider dating or marrying someone who has a psychological problem is one of the most difficult relationship matters. The consequences could be enormous, and there is also a great deal of confusion and fear surrounding this issue. The purpose of this article is to offer some clarity to help you to make a thoughtful decision as to what is in your best interest.
The Five Fundamentals – The factors most important to look for in a spouse.
When dating, it is so important to put most of your focus on “the fundamentals,” the absolutely most core parts of a person’s character.
Preconditions for dating
For a dating to go well, you need to be present and focused. If you are over-tired, exhausted, or distracted, the date can fall flat. If possible, it is best to begin dating when you are willing and able to apply the necessary time, energy, and clear mind to the project.
Never settle for “second best”.
You may reprioritize on some things you thought were important, but always make sure your spouse has your essential requirements. Dropping the insistence on unimportant preferences is perfectly okay, but do not abandon your truest priorities because it will mean you don’t have to date anymore.
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
People are often encouraged to make a list of criteria to guide the search process. Without question, this is necessary and important, because how else can someone know who may be suitable for you.
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
You are only looking for the one person – just one! – and you cannot
What it means to be married – basics.
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to
What is “attachment” and why is this so important for romantic relationships?
“Attachment” is a fascinating and complex matter, and the consequences are enormous for people’s experience
What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion
Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
The question of whether to consider dating or marrying someone who has a psychological problem
The Five Fundamentals – The factors most important to look for in a spouse.
When dating, it is so important to put most of your focus on “the fundamentals,”
Never settle for “second best”.
You may reprioritize on some things you thought were important, but always make sure your
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
People are often encouraged to make a list of criteria to guide the search process.
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
You are only looking for the one person – just one! – and you cannot find someone with all the qualities you are hoping for. Perhaps you find most of the features, but never all of them.
What it means to be married – basics.
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to marriage, and marriage can’t be done just any other way. It needs to be done right. There are some fundamental principles that are at the heart of what it means to be married. Here are some of the most important ideas for you to consider as you contemplate your future.
What is “attachment” and why is this so important for romantic relationships?
“Attachment” is a fascinating and complex matter, and the consequences are enormous for people’s experience of entering into a relationship and how their fair once married. In fact, the issue of attachment may be the single most central and important factor in the quality and success of people’s relationships.
What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion
Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
The question of whether to consider dating or marrying someone who has a psychological problem is one of the most difficult relationship matters. The consequences could be enormous, and there is also a great deal of confusion and fear surrounding this issue. The purpose of this article is to offer some clarity to help you to make a thoughtful decision as to what is in your best interest.
The Five Fundamentals – The factors most important to look for in a spouse.
When dating, it is so important to put most of your focus on “the fundamentals,” the absolutely most core parts of a person’s character.
Preconditions for dating
For a dating to go well, you need to be present and focused. If you are over-tired, exhausted, or distracted, the date can fall flat. If possible, it is best to begin dating when you are willing and able to apply the necessary time, energy, and clear mind to the project.
Never settle for “second best”.
You may reprioritize on some things you thought were important, but always make sure your spouse has your essential requirements. Dropping the insistence on unimportant preferences is perfectly okay, but do not abandon your truest priorities because it will mean you don’t have to date anymore.
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
People are often encouraged to make a list of criteria to guide the search process. Without question, this is necessary and important, because how else can someone know who may be suitable for you.
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
You are only looking for the one person – just one! – and you cannot
What it means to be married – basics.
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to
What is “attachment” and why is this so important for romantic relationships?
“Attachment” is a fascinating and complex matter, and the consequences are enormous for people’s experience
What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion
Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
The question of whether to consider dating or marrying someone who has a psychological problem
The Five Fundamentals – The factors most important to look for in a spouse.
When dating, it is so important to put most of your focus on “the fundamentals,”
Never settle for “second best”.
You may reprioritize on some things you thought were important, but always make sure your
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
People are often encouraged to make a list of criteria to guide the search process.
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less common – there are fewer such people in the population.
What it means to be married – basics
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to marriage, and marriage can’t be done just any other way. It needs to be done right. There are some fundamental
What is attachment? And why is it important?
What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form adult relationships that are what psychologists call “poorly attached,” which could cause us to experience difficulties in dating. For example, you may find that there
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
So you don’t like her brother – get over it!
People use the expression “marrying into the family.” It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage. But ultimately you are contemplating marrying an individual. You may marry “into” a family, but you
Pursue a meaningful life
When you show up on a date and you have a purposeful and meaningful existence, that resonates very strongly with the other person. They will be uplifted by the worthwhile life you are leading. Learn,
Preconditions for dating.
A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a person does need to be in a fit mental state. Developing and maintaining a relationship requires the person to be able to focus
Let go of things that are unimportant.
If you are lucky enough to meet someone truly compatible with you, and with whom you are likely to be able to form a happy and fulfilling marriage, do not be quick to walk away
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
Do you actually know what you are looking for? Your list of preferences is only useful if real thought has gone into it. While you may learn things by actually meeting someone, you should not
Know what is really important to marriage…
There are few hard and fast right and wrongs when it comes to romantic preferences. You not be able to offer logical reasons for many of your preferences, but that too is fine. You are
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality
What it means to be married – basics
What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to
What is attachment? And why is it important?
What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form adult relationships that are what
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
So you don’t like her brother – get over it!
People use the expression “marrying into the family.” It is true that family is an
Pursue a meaningful life
When you show up on a date and you have a purposeful and meaningful existence,
Preconditions for dating.
A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a person does need
Let go of things that are unimportant.
If you are lucky enough to meet someone truly compatible with you, and with whom
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry
Do you actually know what you are looking for? Your list of preferences is only
Know what is really important to marriage…
There are few hard and fast right and wrongs when it comes to romantic preferences.
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
Understanding he difference between “psychological issues” and “psychological illness”.
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry.
The better you know yourself, the better prepared you are for dating and marriage.
Are there actually two of you dating? Why you may be perpetually dissatisfied.
Why you may be perpetually dissatisfied.
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
Understanding he difference between “psychological issues” and “psychological illness”.
Knowing yourself, so that you know who to marry.
The better you know yourself, the better prepared you are for dating and marriage.
Are there actually two of you dating? Why you may be perpetually dissatisfied.
Why you may be perpetually dissatisfied.
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