More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
Bullying often leaves someone feeling insecure and unconfident – and this can show up in the dating. If you were a a victim of bullying.
The victim of bullying may find dating more difficult, and the one dating them will also be affected. There are two main effects of bullying: insecurity and unconfidence. Both impact dating.
When someone is insecure and lacking self-confidence, they keep their guard up; they are defensive and afraid to be vulnerable. They are afraid to trust others. This holds them back from sharing about themselves and building a relationship. They often lack the courage to make big steps, like getting into a relationship.
If your fears and anxieties are coming from events in your past, you must do everything possible to not let that harm your present and destroy your future.
If you see that you are struggling, it is important that you get input from someone with an understanding of effective dating. You may benefit from guidance from a dating coach or a wise shadchan.
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
Some people may think they are attracted to only a certain look and won’t even consider dating someone who doesn’t have those features. They rationalize
Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there needs to be an attraction between two people for a shidduch to work out.
At the same time, attraction needs to be put in perspective of the marriage and lifelong compatibility. In the actual marriage, other factors are most likely going to play a much greater role. Shared values, empathy, generosity, stability all are elements that are crucial for successful marriage.
When you have an interesting life, you will have so much more to speak about, and you’ll come across as an interesting person. Your dates will be more engaging and meaningful.
More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
People appreciate being seen and acknowledged.
An authentic comment will come across as meaningful, memorable, and make the person feel special. A good compliment is genuine, full, specific and unique.
Marriage is the solution for many things, but it is not the solution to psychological problems. If you come to a relationship with psychological problems,
Most of us have plenty of reasons to complain. Life can be stressful, people let us down regularly, and on most days, something is likely
When you show up on a date and you have a purposeful and meaningful existence, that resonates very strongly with the other person. They will
What is said during a date stays in the date. Relationships are all about trust, so never break your trust by divulging what was said
If you are fortunate to have astute friends or family members, welcome their suggestions for possible dates. Shadchanim may be professional matchmakers, but there is
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