One of the great clichés in relation to dating is that “opposites attract.” Is it true? Mostly not. But while opposites may not attract, many types of differences are not necessarily a big deal. While some people put great emphasis on finding someone with personal qualities similar to their own, in many cases there is no real benefit in a couple being similar.

Similarity is most important when it comes to values, where the greater the convergence the better. Otherwise, compatibility is more relevant – where each member in the relationship contributes complementary qualities. Think right shoe and left shoe make a pair. When it comes to personality in particular, it is a strength to be in a marriage with someone who complements their own. A quiet person would be better not marrying someone who is also very quiet, and vice versa.