What does it mean to be married, besides not being single? Successful dating leads to marriage, and marriage can’t be done just any other way. It needs to be done right. There are some fundamental principles that are at the heart of what it means to be married. Here are some of the most important ideas for you to consider as you contemplate your future.

Here are some of the most important ideas for you to consider as you contemplate your future:

It’s not about you!

Be flexible.

You don’t have permission to say whatever you want.

The deal is that you share.

Your spouse isn’t there to rescue you.

What you bring into the marriage is what you will have in the marriage.

Your commitment isn’t dependent on things always going well.

You can’t take your spouse for granted.

Whatever effort you put in will be more than doubly repaid in the wonderful benefits you get to enjoy. Still, marriage is not for free: you get out what you put in.