People typically don’t question or even contemplate the reasons for their motivation. But what if some people are unaware that they are being hugely impacted by the way their struggle to overcome their internal barriers – difficulty connecting, issues with trust, fear of commitment – affects them? Without being conscious of it, they are seeking to date people who they find highly appealing in a particular way, not simply because that’s what they find desirable, but also because they feel that enables them to generate sufficient motivation to overcome their inner struggles. The purpose of this article is to explain how this works. It can transform the way you think about your choices, by better understand where those preferences are coming from.
Tag: appearance
“I feel all he is interested in are my looks.”
If he is very interested in your appearance, but he is also deeply engaged in other ways, then take it as a compliment. If then is only into your looks, then …
Are you fixated by appearance?
When the physical appearance continually proves to be an obstacle, it is often the product of the person’s own inhibitions and not the result of some meaningful preference that he or she has just not yet found.