“I can’t help who I am attracted to”
July 6, 2022
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Some people may think they are attracted to only a certain look and won’t even consider dating someone who doesn’t have those features. They rationalize
“I can’t help who I am attracted to”
July 6, 2022
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Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there needs to be an attraction between two people for a shidduch to work out.
At the same time, attraction needs to be put in perspective of the marriage and lifelong compatibility. In the actual marriage, other factors are most likely going to play a much greater role. Shared values, empathy, generosity, stability all are elements that are crucial for successful marriage.
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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In shidduch dating, both parties come to the table with a clear goal in mind: marriage. However, there is a small percentage of people –
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
It’s OK to ask personal questions on a first date
May 10, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
How to be more interesting.
May 9, 2022
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When you have an interesting life, you will have so much more to speak about, and you’ll come across as an interesting person. Your dates will be more engaging and meaningful.
It’s OK to ask personal questions on a first date.
May 9, 2022
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Personal is not the same thing as private.
This might just be semantics, but they are two different types of questions. A private question addresses matters which are private. A personal question elicits an answer that is unique to that person.
He talks endlessly about himself on the date. Should I be concerned?
April 3, 2022
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Talking about himself a lot is not necessarily a sign of arrogance, or a problem. More important is how he thinks of, and treats, others.
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
April 3, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
How to give a great compliment.
March 22, 2022
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People appreciate being seen and acknowledged.
How to give great compliments.
March 22, 2022
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An authentic comment will come across as meaningful, memorable, and make the person feel special. A good compliment is genuine, full, specific and unique.
First deal with your psychological problems.
January 26, 2022
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Marriage is the solution for many things, but it is not the solution to psychological problems. If you come to a relationship with psychological problems,
Don’t undervalue a good date recommendation.
January 26, 2022
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If you are fortunate to have astute friends or family members, welcome their suggestions for possible dates. Shadchanim may be professional matchmakers, but there is
Don’t talk about other dating partners.
January 26, 2022
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Some people are mighty curious and are prone to enquire about other people. This can happen on a date, when you get asked about previous
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