What is attachment? And why is it important?
December 2, 2021
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What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form adult relationships that are what psychologists call “poorly attached,” which could cause us to experience
Coping with disappointment in dating: The Rollercoaster syndrome.
December 2, 2021
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It is normal that even successful dating will be accompanied by some degree of disappointment, as it is almost impossible to find someone who is
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?
December 2, 2021
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Psychological problems can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, but there is also excessive fear and confusion around the issue. Just because someone is diagnosed
Finding out about a medical condition.
December 2, 2021
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If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important
Parent and child getting on the same page regarding shidduchim.
December 2, 2021
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Most shidduchim are set up with the assistance and advocacy of the young adult’s parents (or another older family member). The young man or woman
A suggestion from a shadchan is not the only way to find a shidduch.
November 30, 2021
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The shidduch can come from anywhere, and anyone can be the shadchan. Many shidduchim are made through a relative or friend, or even a stranger. Keep an open mind. Networking works! Reach out to people you know to see who they know. There are many opportunities to network. More than one shidduch emerged because of an informal chat at the manicure salon! If you see or hear of someone suitable for yourself, don’t be shy to broach the idea.
If you are getting ‘no’ often.
November 9, 2021
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If you keep getting turned down, it is vital that you stop and ask “why?” Here are a range of factors to consider, whether the rejection is during the research phase, after the first date, or whether it is after several dates. Reflect deeply, request feedback, seek advice.
Working with the Shadchan to find shidduch
November 9, 2021
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A Shadchan’s job is not easy. They are tasked to find someone you will like, when they are not you. Here are a range of useful tips as to work together with the shadchan is as productive a manner as possible.
Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?
July 30, 2021
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You may marry “into” a family, but you are not marrying “the” family. People should be assessed on their own merit. At the same time, it is important to know what to try to understand about the family’s role on the person themselves. What type of parenting or family life did they have? How have they dealt with adversity in their upbringing? And, how important is a close connection to your spouse’s family?
Am I supposed to be concerned about this?
July 2, 2021
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Your intuition should be taken seriously and listened to, but only insofar as it urges you to take a careful look at the issue. Not as the arbiter of what is right.
I have sensitive information to reveal: how can I do this while causing least damage?
April 16, 2021
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It would be more advisable to give off a more realistic portrayal of life from the outset, and weave into that the factors that will make your weakness seem less threatening. You can provide context of your life that will make it easy for your date to see how you deal with and manage your issue.
Do I need therapy?
March 26, 2021
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While therapy is designed to deal with traumas and wounds from the past, coaching is focused on helping someone figure out what to do going forward. If you feel stuck in your dating, you might benefit from working with a coach. If you are struggling with a significant issue, you will benefit from working with a therapist.
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