About DateWell
Rabbi Dr. Yossi ives
Dating Expert
and Founder of Datewell
Rabbi Dr. Yossi ives
Dating Psychologist
and Founder of Datewell
DateWell Founder
I founded DateWell because I felt a sense of urgency to help singles see success in their dating. Too many singles are struggling, despite putting in so much time, effort, and money. There have been all kinds of initiatives to deal with the “singles crisis,” but little has been done to address the primary issue: people are getting stuck.
To overcome this, we need to equip singles (and all others involved) with the necessary insight and awareness. I, like you, am passionate about helping singles succeed.
DateWell’s Projects
Individual Coaching
We provide opportunities for individual coaching sessions with Rabbi Dr. Yossi Ives.
Foundational Shidduch Book
We published “Shidduch Success”, our comprehensive book to guide people through the dating process.
A thought leader in the dating space
DateWell developed innovative ideas and creative tools, applying valid psychological concepts to the unique conditions of shidduch dating. Through working with clients and extensive research, DateWell has created a comprehensive methodology that opens new possibilities for dating success. Here are some examples:
“Internal Barriers”
Many dating challenges stem from a person’s internal barriers. Rather than focusing on external factors, we identify what is getting in the way, and generate self-awareness strategies to overcome such hurdles.
“The Twenty Percent”
Not all individuals experience dating the same. Indeed, one in five people will endure some degree of turbulence during dating. Our methodology incorporates this diversity, and provides the necessary tools and insights for each person to succeed.
“Player Syndrome”
A small percentage of people turn dating into a game, as they feel uncomfortable with commitment. We decode the “forever maybe” behavior and offer guidance for those affected by this behavior pattern.
“Rollercoaster Syndrome”
We explain why some people experience abrupt disappointment in their dating, and we provide coping mechanisms for the emotional swings during dating.
Shidduch Success: a Groundbreaking Dating Book By Rabbi Dr. Yossi Ives
This book (320 pages), published by DateWell, provides clarity, self-awareness, and empowerment to those navigating the challenges of Shidduch dating.
It covers:
Core concepts:
Grasp the core Shidduch principles and psychological notions behind dating.
Making wise choices:
Learn how to select the right partner and make key decisions.
Handling dating struggles:
Identify your internal barriers and learn strategies to overcome them.
Practical advice:
Gain skills and ethical guidance to improve your dating experience.
60
Torah thoughts
30+
Real-Life Anecdotes
80
Original Illustrations
Meet Yossi,
Founder of DateWell
Writer and Speaker
An established speaker and author on coaching and relationship matters:
Wrote books on coaching and dating, including the recent “Shidduch Success”
Has spoken for organizations and appeared on various podcasts
Authored the chapter on relationships for the authoritative SAGE Handbook of Coaching
Published peer-reviewed journal articles and academic works
Rabbinic & Community Leadership
Served as a rabbi for most of his adult life, including in the present:
Decades of rabbinic experience and Jewish community leadership
Currently, a community rav in Pomona, New York
Authored a Hebrew book on Kabbalah and 80+ Torah-themed articles on chabad.org
A new book on the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s Torah is coming soon
Humanitarian Projects
Yossi founded and led a humanitarian organization for nearly two decades, focused on leveraging Israeli expertise to aid developing nations.
Managed 30+ projects in 12 countries, mostly in Asia & Africa
Initiated vital women's health and youth development programs
Established charitable organizations in Kenya and Myanmar
Published a book on Israeli contribution to global development, endorsed by the President of Israel
Family & Personal Life
Yossi is happily married for many years, and has raised seven children, three of whom are married, and has two grandchildren.
Devora Krasnianski
Dating Expert
and Founder of Datewell
About Devora
Hi, I’m Devora Krasnianski. I have been collaborating with Yossi to develop DateWell for the last few years…
Devora is the founder of Adai Ad, an impactful educational project aiming to improve people’s dating and marriage. Devora has built up a highly successful WhatsApp group sharing a daily relationship tip that reaches thousands of people across the world. She is also the author of You in Your Marriage and You in Your Communication, containing over a hundred nuggets of relationship and communication advice. Devora is a popular dating mentor and coach helping singles in their dating and relationships.
Founder
Founder of Adai Ad, an impactful educational project aiming to improve people’s dating and marriage
Author & Speaker
Author of You in Your Marriage and You in Your Communication
dating mentor & coach
Wrote several books and featured on numerous podcasts.
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Our Mission
Our mission at DateWell is to simplify the journey to marriage by providing valuable guidance and support for singles and their networks.
We recognize the unfortunate reality that many people struggle on their path to marriage; there are too many people who are experiencing years of frustration with dating. Yet meaningful guidance for navigating the dating process is hard to come by. In particular, people desperately lack credible input for dealing with challenges and difficulties in relation to dating.
DateWell works to make that journey smoother, by providing real answers that help them finally achieve the dating success they’ve been searching for. Through our website, courses, events, and individual coaching, we provide comprehensive resources to help singles and support networks (parents, shadchanim, coaches, mentors) access valuable knowledge and insight.
Shidduchim
Shidduchim operate within an ecosystem, involving parents, shadchanim, rabbanim, dating sites, therapists, and others. All can play a role in a shidduch. DateWell’s mission is to help all those supporting singles and their networks to gain the fullest understanding of the issues and how to address them.
We are privileged to have been able to help thousands of people gain clarity and achieve success. Let’s work together to help singles date well and achieve their highest happiness.
Our Values
Our content is based on clear principles, which guide our approach to all dating matters:
Those providing guidance & support to singles should not be operating on the basis that things are obvious. Many, perhaps most, singles would benefit greatly by having important information about dating pointed out to them. It is hard to see the basis for assuming that people dating have it all figured out.
Problems should not be ignored, with the expectation that they will simply sort themselves out. If someone is consistently not getting a positive result, it is necessary to ask why and to look for ways to change the outcome. Often, with the requisite clarity, the situation can be dramatically improved.
While it is absolutely the decision of the individual as to what their priorities should be, we encourage people to make their choices based on what actually works and is most likely to lead to a successful and happy outcome.
Our communities and those involved in shidduchim need to be open about the issues around dating, so that people aren’t left struggling on their own. There is a range of delicate issues, such as mental illness, that is often avoided, leaving those facing them with insufficient guidance to handle those issues.
It is legitimate for there to be more than one approach to any given problem, and we welcome more than one opinion – even on this site. However, it is important that dating advice is credible and based on a thorough understanding of the particular issues.
Dating should be pursued with a clear sense of purpose. People should not be dating to discover themselves. Rather, one begins dating because one has figured out what they are looking for in life and in a life-partner.
People are making themselves highly vulnerable during dating, and it is therefore necessary for all parties involved in the process to act with great sensitivity. The highest standards of courtesy and dignity are demanded of everyone, especially the individuals actually dating.
Comments policy
We are delighted to be able to offer visitors the opportunity to comment on the content on this website. We regard it as a central feature of the site that people can participate in the discussion around dating issues – to express their own opinion in addition to reading the content provided.
However, we have a responsibility to maintain a respectful and friendly environment. To this end, we will abide by the following simple principles:
- We invite comments, whether in agreement with or whether they sharply differ from the view expressed in the articles. We welcome a diversity of opinion. We trust the reader to form a view on each matter.
- Comments need to be in keeping with halacha and traditional Jewish values. We understand that people may have a variety of opinions as to that as well, but this determination is at the discretion of the managers of the site and its advisors.
- We see no role for rude or confrontational comments. No one should be subjected to vitriol or attack. We trust that any idea can be expressed in a respectful and pleasant manner – and that it would only be better if stated in a friendly spirit.
- We will endeavor to have comments appear in a timely fashion, but it most likely won’t be instantaneous, since all comments will be approved before being visible on the site. We thank you for your understanding.
The purpose of the comments section is to address the points in the articles. Someone wishing to make a general comment about the site should feel free to email us at: info@datewell.org. All input and constructive criticism is welcome and appreciated.
Disclaimer
This website can only provide information and ideas for your consideration. Ultimately, each person needs to assess whether what they read is something they wish to act upon.
- All information on this site is for educational purposes only. We are not advocating that people act on the advice given here without consulting suitable advisors.
- We address a range of practical and real-life issues, and encourage you to use them as a basis for reflection as to the applicability of the advice to your individual situation. People who decide to put any of our ideas into practice carry responsibility for their own decisions.
- While we don’t shy away from addressing topics of a psychological nature, it needs to be clear that that does not constitute psychological guidance. If you are facing a psychological matter, it is essential that you consult a qualified expert.
- Every effort is being made to ensure our content is consistent with, and indeed embodies, Torah values. However, the aim of this site is not to state Torah positions. If there is any question of a halachic or hashkafic nature, please consult a rav.