Dating, but easier.
Because when you understand yourself, everything gets easier.
Dating feeling like a struggle and not sure why?
We’ve got a fun, simple way to uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface of your dating life.
Check out our Dating Types and if you think “That’s so me!” dive deeper for more insight!
Identify your type. Get insight. Date wiser.
Behold a lighthearted and engaging way to uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface of your shidduch journey. It features twenty characters, each reflecting a different personality and dating experience. The goal is to help you to better understand yourself and your dating.
The So-Me Dating Types are short, spot-on profiles that capture how different people actually show up while dating. If one makes you think, “That’s so me,” you’re in the right place. Dive deeper to uncover what’s driving your experience — and date with more clarity, confidence, and intention.
Some of the So-Me Dating Types may feel similar on the surface, especially in how people show up on a date. For example, two types might both struggle to open up or share about themselves — yet for very different inner reasons. You may find that more than one type resonates. Read with curiosity, notice the nuances, and see which one feels most true when you’re being really honest with yourself.
Here’s an illustration of how it may work.
Chaim has been dating for a couple of years and has had a number of shidduchim. Quite a few went on for a while, and seemed for a time to have real potential. In the end, though, Chaim felt unable to continue. Most of the shidduchim ended because Chaim felt stressed, uneasy, and very stuck. But why, after so many promising starts, did things fall down?
Chaim discovered our “That’s so me!” hoping to get some insight. At first, he came across Anxious Abigail and found parts of her story familiar—the stress, the emotional drain, the sense of overwhelm. “Maybe that’s me,” he thought. “I do get really anxious when I date.” But something didn’t sit right. “I’m not usually an anxious person,” he realized. While some of it resonated, it didn’t quite capture the full picture—so he kept looking.
Chaim was drawn to Commitment-Phobic Connie. “That sounds a lot like me,” he thought. “Dating feels easier at the beginning, but I tend to pull away after a few dates. Maybe this is me?” he wondered. But again, he wasn’t sure, as he didn’t experience the kind of panic that often comes with this type, nor the typical strong sense that something was wrong.
When Chaim met Indecisive Izzy, the penny dropped. “That’s so spot on—it describes me to a tee,” he said. “I get stuck for no clear reason. I make endless pros and cons lists, talk everything through with people… and still don’t move forward.” What really hit home was the part about how the indecisive type sometimes sabotages the relationship just to avoid making a decision—and then feels relief when it ends. “That’s exactly what’s happened to me so many times,” Chaim realized.
That realization brought a wave of relief. “Clearly, I’m not the only one experiencing this,” Chaim said. He felt seen and understood. “It seems what I’ve been going through is a real thing.”
Encouraged by the clarity, Chaim clicked through to explore more. He found helpful content that explained how indecision can show up in dating, along with some initial tools for moving past the constant paralysis. Inspired by this new insight, he sought advice from a coach about how to avoid his indecision from calling the shots.
Maybe you’ll find your “That’s So Me” here—and suddenly, things will start making sense, giving you the insight you need to move forward.
Take a look at all the characters, or focus on the question/category that most resonates with you. You can also check through all if you’d like a full view.