Naysayer Noam
- Has a tendency to write people off quickly, assuming they’re not a good match
- Feels like every date is with someone who doesn’t fit their ideal or values
- Often think they’re being misunderstood, frustrated at shadchanim
- Gives a hard no, is rarely open to another point of view
- Feel they’re wasting their time, get discouraged by the repetitive ‘mismatches’
- Don’t understand why they’re often told they’re being too picky or unreasonable
- Claims to ‘know their worth’ and often view people they’ve met as ‘settling’
Emotion:
Inner Mood:
Disclaimer
We understand that in presenting these dating types, we risk causing offense. After all, we’re describing real people—people like you and me.
We want to be clear: we recognize this challenge, and we’ve worked hard to avoid hurting feelings. We’ve agonized over every word to be as sensitive as possible.
At the same time, we’ve prioritized being real and honest. Too many people are struggling way too hard for way too long, and our goal is to be straight-up about how internal patterns and mindsets can contribute to that.
We’re willing to be liked less if it means helping more. That’s why we didn’t always soften things if doing so would water down the message or reduce its usefulness.
That said, it’s entirely possible we got some things wrong. We’re open to hearing that, and we’re willing to apologize and revise. If you feel anything in the “So Me” types should be changed, please let us know.
We ask that you comment with the same level of respect and sensitivity you’d want for yourself. Together, we can help bring more happiness to Klal Yisrael.
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