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Independent Itzik

“I’d get married if it was the right person, but I have a pretty good life being single. If things work out, fine. Otherwise, I’m good on my own.”
  • Values personal freedom and self-sufficiency, and is reluctant to surrender them 
  • Often think they don’t need a relationship to feel whole
  • Prioritizes personal goals and interests, and can even resent the need to date
  • If relationship makes too many demands will hold tightly to their independence
  • May push people away when they try to get too close or suggest a deeper connection
  • Struggles to open up emotionally, keeping things at a surface level
  • Is typically less willing to make concessions or adjustments to make it work for other

Emotion:

Self-reliance + Resistance to adapt

Inner Mood:

Attached to independence, unsure about the necessity of a relationship, and regards adjustments for the sake of the relationship as a chore.

Disclaimer

We understand that in presenting these dating types, we risk causing offense. After all, we’re describing real people—people like you and me.

We want to be clear: we recognize this challenge, and we’ve worked hard to avoid hurting feelings. We’ve agonized over every word to be as sensitive as possible.

At the same time, we’ve prioritized being real and honest. Too many people are struggling way too hard for way too long, and our goal is to be straight-up about how internal patterns and mindsets can contribute to that.

We’re willing to be liked less if it means helping more. That’s why we didn’t always soften things if doing so would water down the message or reduce its usefulness.

That said, it’s entirely possible we got some things wrong. We’re open to hearing that, and we’re willing to apologize and revise. If you feel anything in the “So Me” types should be changed, please let us know.

We ask that you comment with the same level of respect and sensitivity you’d want for yourself. Together, we can help bring more happiness to Klal Yisrael.

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