Fixated Fernando
- Fixates on one surface aspect—appearance, income, height, etc.
- Ends shidduchim quickly despite everything else going well
- Attributes discomfort to the other’s “not enough-ness”
- Secretly hopes external qualities will override internal barriers
- Hopes excitement will rescue them from own ambivalence
- Finds commitment difficult, but doesn’t consciously connect the dots
Emotion:
Inner Mood:
Disclaimer
We understand that in presenting these dating types, we risk causing offense. After all, we’re describing real people—people like you and me.
We want to be clear: we recognize this challenge, and we’ve worked hard to avoid hurting feelings. We’ve agonized over every word to be as sensitive as possible.
At the same time, we’ve prioritized being real and honest. Too many people are struggling way too hard for way too long, and our goal is to be straight-up about how internal patterns and mindsets can contribute to that.
We’re willing to be liked less if it means helping more. That’s why we didn’t always soften things if doing so would water down the message or reduce its usefulness.
That said, it’s entirely possible we got some things wrong. We’re open to hearing that, and we’re willing to apologize and revise. If you feel anything in the “So Me” types should be changed, please let us know.
We ask that you comment with the same level of respect and sensitivity you’d want for yourself. Together, we can help bring more happiness to Klal Yisrael.
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