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Fearful Feivel

“I’m not meeting people who make me feel comfortable.”
  • Frequently ends relationships, often after several dates
  • Focuses on what could go wrong, even when dates are going well
  • Is guarded about their emotions / reluctant to become vulnerable
  • Keeps searching for reasons not to move forward
  • Magnifies small concerns into major risks
  • Never feeling ready, always outstanding issues 
  • Highly likely to want to take breaks
  • Brings up issues later on that weren’t an issue before

Emotion:

Fear of future regret / getting emotionally hurt

Inner Mood:

The closer the relationship gets, the more the mind shifts to protecting against what could go wrong (external), to avoid getting emotionally hurt (internal).

Disclaimer

We understand that in presenting these dating types, we risk causing offense. After all, we’re describing real people—people like you and me.

We want to be clear: we recognize this challenge, and we’ve worked hard to avoid hurting feelings. We’ve agonized over every word to be as sensitive as possible.

At the same time, we’ve prioritized being real and honest. Too many people are struggling way too hard for way too long, and our goal is to be straight-up about how internal patterns and mindsets can contribute to that.

We’re willing to be liked less if it means helping more. That’s why we didn’t always soften things if doing so would water down the message or reduce its usefulness.

That said, it’s entirely possible we got some things wrong. We’re open to hearing that, and we’re willing to apologize and revise. If you feel anything in the “So Me” types should be changed, please let us know.

We ask that you comment with the same level of respect and sensitivity you’d want for yourself. Together, we can help bring more happiness to Klal Yisrael.

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