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Commitment-phobic Connie

“Things seem to go well … until the relationship starts to get serious.”
  • Struggles when the relationship gets serious
  • Invents minimal justifications to end shidduch
  • Experiences panic and dread dread about moving toward
  • Is convinced something must be wrong
  • Almost never feels ready to get engaged
  • Pulls away even after weeks of positive dating

Emotion:

Anxiety + Fear of losing freedom

Inner Mood:

Torn between wanting connection and fearing entrapment.

Disclaimer

We understand that in presenting these dating types, we risk causing offense. After all, we’re describing real people—people like you and me.

We want to be clear: we recognize this challenge, and we’ve worked hard to avoid hurting feelings. We’ve agonized over every word to be as sensitive as possible.

At the same time, we’ve prioritized being real and honest. Too many people are struggling way too hard for way too long, and our goal is to be straight-up about how internal patterns and mindsets can contribute to that.

We’re willing to be liked less if it means helping more. That’s why we didn’t always soften things if doing so would water down the message or reduce its usefulness.

That said, it’s entirely possible we got some things wrong. We’re open to hearing that, and we’re willing to apologize and revise. If you feel anything in the “So Me” types should be changed, please let us know.

We ask that you comment with the same level of respect and sensitivity you’d want for yourself. Together, we can help bring more happiness to Klal Yisrael.

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