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PREPARE: Preparing for your Successful Marriage

Dating for marriage is one of the most important things you shall ever do. This “Prepare” section of our website will help you approach it well and be dating-ready.

You will find thought-provoking materials to help you gain greater clarity about what you want from life and from marriage, from choosing your priorities in a mate, to dealing with emotional baggage, to addressing sensitive issues like physical or mental illness.

What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion

Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game,...

Are you ready for marriage?

If you are not ready to get married, then you are not...

“I can’t help who I am attracted to”

Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there...

How to be more interesting.

When you have an interesting life, you will have so...

What it means to be married – basics.

What does it mean to be married, besides not being...

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Best not to date if you are unable to give it the time and focus it deserves.

For a date to go well, you need to be present and focused....

Preconditions for dating.

A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a...

Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?

It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking...

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What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion

Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game,...

Are you ready for marriage?

If you are not ready to get married, then you are not...

“I can’t help who I am attracted to”

Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there...

How to be more interesting.

When you have an interesting life, you will have so...

What it means to be married – basics.

What does it mean to be married, besides not being...

1 2 3 4 5 6

Best not to date if you are unable to give it the time and focus it deserves.

For a date to go well, you need to be present and focused....

Preconditions for dating.

A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a...

Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?

It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking...

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NAVIGATE: Navigating the Shidduch Process

The shidduch process can be mightily confusing. This “Navigate” section aims to make the process clearer and to help guide you through it.
We cover all things shadchan-related, as well as how to network broadly for dating suggestions. You will find here strategies and tips on conducting research, interacting with parents and mentors, preparing your shidduch profile, and how to cope with the difficult feelings of disappointment or rejection – and numerous other topics as well.

TOOLS: Tools and Mindsets for Effective Dating

Dating requires unique tools. Strong skills and suitable attitudes will contribute greatly to enjoyable and productive dates.

This ‘Tools’ section of the website covers a range of tips and ideas to generate good conversations, from listening and questioning skills. It offers great perspectives on the practice of dating, from dating etiquette to being presentable on a date, from understanding your own and your date’s personality, to recognizing when and how to seek outside assistance.

ACQUAINT: Getting to Know Each Other

This “Acquaint” section of the website focuses on getting to know one another. The purpose of the first few dates is to see if there is a suitable level of compatibility. But what aspects need to be compatible, and how do you best find that out?

Read about whether to trust your instinct, what to reveal during the first dates, how to handle surprising information, how to spot red flags, how to understand personality types, and what you may choose to do if the first dates didn’t go too well.

Are short dates a bad sign?

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Accept that people don’t fundamentally change.

Don’t marry someone with the hope that they will change. As much as you may

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“I can’t help who I am attracted to”

Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there needs to be an attraction between two

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BOND: Deepening the Relationship

The second, and typically longest, phase of dating is about deepening the connection, creating the opportunity for the relationship to develop.

In this “Bond” section, you will find lots of ideas and questions to help you develop the connection, as well as materials on how you can tell whether the person you are dating is likely to be your suitable spouse and life-partner.

We address a multitude of topics, from what to do if something is bothering you about your date, whether you are settling for second best, what to do if you are not developing emotional feelings – and so much more.

COMMIT: Committing to Marriage

The commitment phase of dating can be both exciting and scary. Are you ready to go forward with the most important decision of your life?
In this “Commit” section, we have lots of really helpful materials to see you through the final phase of dating, from what you need to know and discuss before making a final decision, to how to deal with remaining niggling doubt, to how best to propose.