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PREPARE: Preparing for your Successful Marriage

Dating for marriage is one of the most important things you shall ever do. This “Prepare” section of our website will help you approach it well and be dating-ready.

You will find thought-provoking materials to help you gain greater clarity about what you want from life and from marriage, from choosing your priorities in a mate, to dealing with emotional baggage, to addressing sensitive issues like physical or mental illness.

What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion

Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game,...

Are you ready for marriage?

If you are not ready to get married, then you are not...

“I can’t help who I am attracted to”

Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there...

How to be more interesting.

When you have an interesting life, you will have so...

What it means to be married – basics.

What does it mean to be married, besides not being...

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Are you fixated by appearance?

People often insist that the reason that they give...

Conflicting and confused priorities.

Without realizing it, some people are actually looking...

Let go of things that are unimportant.

If you are lucky enough to meet someone truly compatible...

Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?

Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much...

What is attachment? And why is it important?

What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form...

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What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion

Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game,...

Are you ready for marriage?

If you are not ready to get married, then you are not...

“I can’t help who I am attracted to”

Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there...

How to be more interesting.

When you have an interesting life, you will have so...

What it means to be married – basics.

What does it mean to be married, besides not being...

1 2 3 4 5 6

Are you fixated by appearance?

People often insist that the reason that they give...

Conflicting and confused priorities.

Without realizing it, some people are actually looking...

Let go of things that are unimportant.

If you are lucky enough to meet someone truly compatible...

Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?

Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much...

What is attachment? And why is it important?

What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form...

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NAVIGATE: Navigating the Shidduch Process

The shidduch process can be mightily confusing. This “Navigate” section aims to make the process clearer and to help guide you through it.
We cover all things shadchan-related, as well as how to network broadly for dating suggestions. You will find here strategies and tips on conducting research, interacting with parents and mentors, preparing your shidduch profile, and how to cope with the difficult feelings of disappointment or rejection – and numerous other topics as well.

TOOLS: Tools and Mindsets for Effective Dating

Dating requires unique tools. Strong skills and suitable attitudes will contribute greatly to enjoyable and productive dates.

This ‘Tools’ section of the website covers a range of tips and ideas to generate good conversations, from listening and questioning skills. It offers great perspectives on the practice of dating, from dating etiquette to being presentable on a date, from understanding your own and your date’s personality, to recognizing when and how to seek outside assistance.

ACQUAINT: Getting to Know Each Other

This “Acquaint” section of the website focuses on getting to know one another. The purpose of the first few dates is to see if there is a suitable level of compatibility. But what aspects need to be compatible, and how do you best find that out?

Read about whether to trust your instinct, what to reveal during the first dates, how to handle surprising information, how to spot red flags, how to understand personality types, and what you may choose to do if the first dates didn’t go too well.

Do Opposites Attract?

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Do I have to tell my date problematic things I have done in the past?

Guilt is a healthy response as a reaction to the past, yet it is a

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Conversation on first dates

The first half-hour of the first date(s) is all about loosening up, breaking

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Be wary of judging the shidduch by how much you enjoy the date

It is important not to confuse the goal and process of dating. Dating is a

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Are you frightened by the difference of opinion?

In a marriage, there will be a healthy exchange of views and even differences of

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BOND: Deepening the Relationship

The second, and typically longest, phase of dating is about deepening the connection, creating the opportunity for the relationship to develop.

In this “Bond” section, you will find lots of ideas and questions to help you develop the connection, as well as materials on how you can tell whether the person you are dating is likely to be your suitable spouse and life-partner.

We address a multitude of topics, from what to do if something is bothering you about your date, whether you are settling for second best, what to do if you are not developing emotional feelings – and so much more.

COMMIT: Committing to Marriage

The commitment phase of dating can be both exciting and scary. Are you ready to go forward with the most important decision of your life?
In this “Commit” section, we have lots of really helpful materials to see you through the final phase of dating, from what you need to know and discuss before making a final decision, to how to deal with remaining niggling doubt, to how best to propose.