TOOLS: Tools & Mindsets for Productive Dating

Tools

Tools & Mindsets for Productive Dating

Dating requires unique tools. Strong skills and suitable attitudes will contribute greatly to enjoyable and productive dates.
This section of the website covers a range of tips and ideas to generate good conversations, from listening and questioning skills. It offers great perspectives on the practice of dating, from dating etiquette to being presentable on a date, from understanding your own and your date’s personality, to recognizing when and how to seek outside assistance.

Are short dates a bad sign?

February 7, 2023 No Comments

“I’m Not Feeling It”: How to build Connection

September 21, 2022 No Comments

One of the key reasons people struggle with dating is: bonding, or building a connection. If connection doesn’t develop automatically and organically, it is still possible and necessary to nurture it. How? By saying and doing those things that trigger the same kinds of reactions that for most people happen naturally. Make it your business to ensure that your date feels better about herself for having spent some time in your company. This is especially true for people who are struggling to build connection.

“I’m Not Feeling It”: How to build Connection

September 20, 2022 No Comments

One of the key reasons people struggle with dating is: bonding, or building a connection. If connection doesn’t develop automatically and organically, it is still

Before committing to marriage – for women

July 10, 2022 No Comments

When making the decision to commit to marriage, think with your head and not only with your heart. Before committing to marriage, THINK about these aspects of your relationship. And substantiate with examples and anecdotes.

Before committing to marriage – for men

July 10, 2022 No Comments

Conversation on first dates

July 10, 2022 No Comments

The first half-hour of the first date(s) is all about loosening up, breaking any tension and just … getting through it. Keep things lighthearted, natural and quite general. Ask light questions with the intent to find something in common. When you are starting a conversation, not all topics will catch on right away. When something seems to catch both of your attention, hover on that topic and dive deeper.

First dates are not all about chit-chatting about random topics. The goal of the first dates is to get a sense of who the other person is. You both should be sharing bits about yourself in areas that are not that private.

How being bullied affects dating.

July 7, 2022 No Comments

More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?

How being bullied affects dating.

July 7, 2022 No Comments

Bullying often leaves someone feeling insecure and unconfident – and this can show up in the dating. If you were a a victim of bullying.

How being bullied affects dating.

July 7, 2022 No Comments

The victim of bullying may find dating more difficult, and the one dating them will also be affected. There are two main effects of bullying: insecurity and unconfidence. Both impact dating.

When someone is insecure and lacking self-confidence, they keep their guard up; they are defensive and afraid to be vulnerable. They are afraid to trust others. This holds them back from sharing about themselves and building a relationship. They often lack the courage to make big steps, like getting into a relationship.

If your fears and anxieties are coming from events in your past, you must do everything possible to not let that harm your present and destroy your future.
If you see that you are struggling, it is important that you get input from someone with an understanding of effective dating. You may benefit from guidance from a dating coach or a wise shadchan.