Everyone’s asking the wrong question.
Is he attractive?
Successful?
Smart?
Funny?
Confident?
Those things matter.
But none of them matter if they don’t actually like you.
Because if someone sees something special in you…
if they genuinely want to build a life with you…
that changes the starting point entirely.
Before you zoom in on every flaw, every doubt, every criticism…
Pause and ask:
What does it mean that someone feels this positively about me?
Sometimes the most attractive thing isn’t what they bring to the table.
It’s that they actually want a seat next to you.