It is a wonderful quality to be tolerant and accepting of others, but when it comes to dating this has its limits. As much as you might like the other person, don’t try to excuse the inexcusable. If she behaves in an extremely selfish manner, don’t imagine this won’t happen in the marriage. If he is clearly a dishonest person, you should not explain that away. If she loses her temper at you, you have been duly warned. If he is overly controlling, acting as if he is entitled to dictate your choices, understand that this is cause for concern.
It has long been said that people don’t easily change and the advice has been given for generations not to marry someone with the intention of changing them. This is true. If their behavior is unacceptable now, it is likely to be unacceptable later. There are many potential red flags, and each is quite different from the other. Here are some of the articles on red flag issues.
