“I can’t help who I am attracted to”
July 6, 2022
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Some people may think they are attracted to only a certain look and won’t even consider dating someone who doesn’t have those features. They rationalize
“I can’t help who I am attracted to”
July 6, 2022
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Attraction is a very personal thing. Clearly, there needs to be an attraction between two people for a shidduch to work out.
At the same time, attraction needs to be put in perspective of the marriage and lifelong compatibility. In the actual marriage, other factors are most likely going to play a much greater role. Shared values, empathy, generosity, stability all are elements that are crucial for successful marriage.
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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In shidduch dating, both parties come to the table with a clear goal in mind: marriage. However, there is a small percentage of people –
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.
Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.
July 6, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
It’s OK to ask personal questions on a first date
May 10, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
It’s OK to ask personal questions on a first date.
May 9, 2022
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Personal is not the same thing as private.
This might just be semantics, but they are two different types of questions. A private question addresses matters which are private. A personal question elicits an answer that is unique to that person.
He talks endlessly about himself on the date. Should I be concerned?
April 3, 2022
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Talking about himself a lot is not necessarily a sign of arrogance, or a problem. More important is how he thinks of, and treats, others.
We have different religious levels, is this a problem?
April 3, 2022
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More than the exact differences of your religiosity levels is the ‘what’ and ‘who’. What are the differences; are they major or minor? Who are each of you; how flexible are each of you?
How to talk about parents and family on a date.
January 26, 2022
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Family often brings out a lot of passion in people. They are the people we love most, but also the people who have the capacity
Do you have an “avoidance issue”?
January 26, 2022
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You may find that there always is something that prevents you from reaching the engagement stage. Repeatedly you find that something impossible to ignore is
Don’t get possessive.
January 26, 2022
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Some people have what is known as an “anxious attachment orientation”, which means that they hold on extra tight to the person they are attached
Why dating can begin well and become difficult later.
January 25, 2022
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Some people are great with dating until things turn serious. Once it becomes clear that things could go all the way with this person, a
A date can be both difficult and successful – there is no inherent contradiction.
January 25, 2022
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Ideally, you meet someone who is a great fit, you connect well with them, and are excited to have found someone with whom you can
You may be an idiot, but there is no obligation to show it!
January 24, 2022
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Dating doesn’t have to be all serious. If you have a fun personality, let it show. Have a good time, and let your date have
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