Can introverts & extroverts marry each other?
December 2, 2021
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We would not be addressing this question were it not for the fact that (in our view at least) this is a matter of some
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Navigating the Shiduch Process
The shidduch process can be mightily confusing. This “Navigate” section aims to make the process clearer and to help guide you through it.
We cover all things shadchan-related, as well as how to network broadly for dating suggestions. You will find here strategies and tips on conducting research, interacting with parents and mentors, preparing your shidduch profile, and how to cope with the difficult feelings of disappointment or rejection – and numerous other topics as well.
Is it true that opposites attract?
December 2, 2021
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One of the great clichés in relation to dating is that “opposites attract.” Is it true? Mostly not. But while opposites may not attract, many
Should I take a break?
December 2, 2021
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Taking a break during dating is often a cop out and will not achieve anything. Most doubts or uncertainties regarding your dating partner are best
Working with a Shadchan to find shidduch.
December 2, 2021
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Working well with a shadchan is key to success. It begins with establishing a good working relationship, including finding one that suits you, and learning
Know what you are looking for.
December 2, 2021
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It is difficult to assess compatibility in the absence of criteria. Having a clear list of priorities against which to measure suitability will help you
Finding out about a medical condition.
December 2, 2021
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If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important
Parent and child getting on the same page regarding shidduchim.
December 2, 2021
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Most shidduchim are set up with the assistance and advocacy of the young adult’s parents (or another older family member). The young man or woman
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for?
December 1, 2021
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It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less
Is there anything wrong with dating two people at the same time?
December 1, 2021
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Why should anyone feel the need to do so? There are two divergent reasons, which are the basis for the two distinct types of double
A suggestion from a shadchan is not the only way to find a shidduch.
November 30, 2021
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The shidduch can come from anywhere, and anyone can be the shadchan. Many shidduchim are made through a relative or friend, or even a stranger. Keep an open mind. Networking works! Reach out to people you know to see who they know. There are many opportunities to network. More than one shidduch emerged because of an informal chat at the manicure salon! If you see or hear of someone suitable for yourself, don’t be shy to broach the idea.
If you are getting ‘no’ often.
November 9, 2021
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If you keep getting turned down, it is vital that you stop and ask “why?” Here are a range of factors to consider, whether the rejection is during the research phase, after the first date, or whether it is after several dates. Reflect deeply, request feedback, seek advice.
Best not to date if you are unable to give it the time and focus it deserves
November 9, 2021
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For a dating to go well, you need to be present and focused. If you are over-tired, exhausted, or distracted, the date can fall flat. If possible, it is best to begin dating when you are willing and able to apply the necessary time, energy, and clear mind to the project.
Working with the Shadchan to find shidduch
November 9, 2021
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A Shadchan’s job is not easy. They are tasked to find someone you will like, when they are not you. Here are a range of useful tips as to work together with the shadchan is as productive a manner as possible.
Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?
July 30, 2021
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You may marry “into” a family, but you are not marrying “the” family. People should be assessed on their own merit. At the same time, it is important to know what to try to understand about the family’s role on the person themselves. What type of parenting or family life did they have? How have they dealt with adversity in their upbringing? And, how important is a close connection to your spouse’s family?
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